I'm a full sikh and also passed through this phase when one has doubts about why things have to be done. Only recently have I been able to be start to gain some clarity about what it means. Firstly, without any disrespect, I must say that we Sikhs are only 35 million out of a population of 6 billion. Do we really think that 99% of humanity is wrong when they cut their hair ? Rather I think the answer lies in changing our perception of the question. The question we should ask is not are they right or wrong but rather here is a quote from Sukhmani Saheb : Jeh Jeh Pana Theh Theh Raakheh, Nanak Sub Kich Prabh Keh Haatheh. Pls forgive my transliteration errors. A rough translation would be : Everything happens as per God's Command so humanity living the way it does is also part of His divine Pana and for a Gursikh acceptance of this is the first step . The duality of right or wrong , pain or joy , happy or sad etc will disappear once we accept Pana because in that state of consciousness, there is only right because God's Pana can only be right. Gurbani teaches us that it is wrong to partake of that which is forbidden. (Hakh Paria Nanka, Us Suvar Us Gaon). For the Muslim , it's wrong to partake of pork and for Hindus beef. This is in essence, the first step in religious discovery, that of accepting the command of your Guru. A person only can begin to be humble when he accepts. If we go to a school and wish to enter class or study as per our own timetable, then no school will accept us. Which means that once we enrolled we must follow . So as a Gursikh, acceptance of Guru's will is the first necessary step to removing ego. And so if he commands us to keep hair, then he in his infinite wisdom , knows why and our duty as Gursikh is to follow and accept. If we can't accept Guru's will , how are we going to be able to accept God's will ? In a similar way, I would say that for a Sikh, our Paria Hakh is : cutting of hair, tobacco and partaking of intoxicants. Our foremost and final goal in life is to be in tune with Naam every second ,every breath - Uthath Baithath Sovath Naam, Kahoh Nanak Jan Kai Sadh Kaam. This is not possible if we are not in full control of our conscious at all times . And how can this be if we are in an intoxicated state. So partaking of tobacco and other intoxicants which will affect our conscience is strictly forbidden . I don't know if it clears any doubts but it will help if others can comment furthur. Perhaps some other positive ideas may emerge. Thanks for reading.

i m manvinder singh from amritsar i need some work,becoz of lack of funds i cant run my business i m requesting that if any one have any proposal of work which he thinks i can do help me out THANX

Mam! I'm a 25 yr old guy...... Just like ur son I wanted to get my hair cut at his age but I trimmed my beard without asking anybody........ My mom noticed it ..... Said nothing ........but stared slapping me I had a deep impact of those slaps..... then she took off her slipper and beat me with it........ I took it ...... Then I asked her why did she do it for just trimming my beard..... She couldn't explain that she did that out of religious sentiments but she just said, "I didn't like that....." Though I didn't quit trimming overnight but those slaps were like unforgettable....... After my graduation I resolved not to rim my beard but still wasn't true to my resolution..... Took me 2 more years to quit it And finally I did just because of my Mom's slaps and chappals...... Your son loves u a lot..... Counel him..... If he doesn't agree.....Tell him u won't speak to him ever...... I can guarantee............................... HE WON'T DO IT....................... :) Take Care

I can very well understand the worry you have for your son, I can assure you if you follow the steps you will not regrett. 1. Try to find out who his friends are, may be some of them are trying to persuade him to cut his hair, and try to seprate him from their company and let him make friends with some gursikh boys. 2. Let him read the books by Bhai Vir Singh Ji, like Bijai Singh & Sundari, once he reads them he may be interested to read some of his other novels. 3. Take him to watch Sundari and Kambdi Kalai, movies or you could buy the DVDs and watch at home. 4. Final and the most difficult step if you can do it, I gaurantee you, Waheguru Ji would do the needful. Do 21 paths (one a day) of Sukhmani Sahib in addition to your daily Nit-Nem, with him sitting with you and listening to it, if he can do it along with you much the better. Keep a tumbler full with water while doing the path and let him drink it after the Ardas, begging Waheguru Ji to help you resolve this problem. After 21 paths, do Karah-Parshad, at home or in the Gurdwara you go to and do the Ardas asking Waheguru Ji to prtect his Kesh. I am 100% sure you would be succesful. I would also do the Ardas that Waheguru Ji may rid you off of this anxity.

A - Though what the above gursikh said is true, but just explaining that the hair are our Guru's gift would not be enough according to me. You have to get to the root. Let me exapnd it here for you the primary causes are going to be. First saying that the hair are our Guru's gift is true, but a spektical person would want to know the reasoning behind us as Sikhs keeping our hair. 1. Do not just give the reason that we keep hair because they are naturally formed. This is partial trouth the reason behind why Guru told us to keep hair. Also your son would probably point to why we cut our nails, the are natural too. 2. Do not just give the reason that do it so because it is the identity given to us by our Guru, so we shall keep hair to be distinct. I the eyes of a skeptic this would be blind faith and contarary to the new scietific ages ideolygy. This would be so because we ourslf condemn anyone doing something because a person/ book said so. The whole gurbani asks us to think about the logic and reasoning behind what we belive and folow. 3. Here is reasoning that any person should be able to extrapolate- this is purely my opinion. First cutting or keeping one's hair does not make that person closer or farther from God. This would be same thing as saying that because one is able to keep hair tha person has experienced more of god any any other person. Same is with the theme of going into Jungle - as going into jungles and leaving the worldly oder does not make us closer to God, nor a person who got his finger cut off acidently compared to a person with normal hand. The reason lies in our scoietal norms and Guru sahib was well aware of human nature. 4. According to our societal norm hair viewed by a normal person as hinderance with looking good and clean. Furthermore they are related to sex and related practices, but in our punjabi culture this is not to b e talked about. Especially not with childern. So they childern get exposed to the societal point of view and not any cousouling from parents. Here a skeptical would say that how dies sexual pleasure relate to God - and it does not. This one reason as far as I have known tha people will postpone Amrit Chakna wel into their 50's and so - waiting for the right time, but they forget tha deeds done are done - they well indside their hearts know. 5. However Guru sahib was a really smart person. This is why Guru sahib condemed cutting of hair not only from head but from any part of body. If it was to be just for identity - the hair on head and pag would have been enough. This provided the assurity - that 90% (appx ) of the people who would not be fit, due to this reason would be eliminated to be Khalsa. This also answers why we cut nails and not hair. If you see that keeping hair on every part of body is very strongly corelated with VIKARS - lust and lobh, which a Khalsa should keep in control and therefore Guru Ji made acceptance of God's will on that part the norm for Khalsa ( nomally norms differ from society to society and peeron to person). However in the case of nail cutting , they actually cause hindrance in our daily activities - food and work - and also confllict with KIRT KARNI. 6. Personally having been gone thorugh the time your son is going thorugh, I think you would give him these reasons. NO one had reasons for me but I figured them out myself with grace of God and faith. Not everyone has same faith to be patient and find reasons and no one with reasoning. Please sit and talk to him pateinlt but even before that look at the norm/reasoning that you have provided him with and their contradictions to sikhi. You are the role model for hiim and that is why he came to you. Please forgive me for any mistake or inappropriate language. Guru Khalsa Panth is the forgiver. Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh